Sealing Cancelations

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Sealing Cancelations

Postby AlexCunning » Sun Jun 10, 2012 3:23 pm

I was recently divorced and I am now thinking about remarrying someone in particular. I was wondering if there were any success stories on couples who were able to receive a cancelation in time to be sealed to their new spouse instead of going the route of a civil marriage first and a sealing later. It is really important for me to do it in this order. My ex husband left me and I had no part in wanting the divorce. If you have any other knowledge of the process I would really be pleased to hear it!

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Postby jdlessley » Sun Jun 10, 2012 4:33 pm

This is best discussed with your bishop. There may be information in Handbook 1, Stake Presidents and Bishops, [2010] as well as personal information that he may need to discuss with you.
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Postby gregwanderson » Mon Jun 11, 2012 6:04 am

It all depends on your timing. I know a man who was married in the temple then was divorced a few years later. When he decided to marry again in the temple the engagement was about four-and-a-half months (and some of that time was spent obtaining the proper clearance from the First Presidency). I don't know if that's typical timing but it doesn't seem like an unreasonable wait to me. (It's just that, at first, they couldn't tell anyone their specific wedding date because they were waiting for the approval. Otherwise it seemed like a very typical engagement.) He did not have to have a civil marriage first with a sealing later. And, yes, he worked closely with his Bishop since before the divorce.

As stated, the Bishop is the one who can "get the ball rolling" on the necessary clearance so make your appointment right away.

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Postby surf40 » Fri Jul 20, 2012 4:09 pm

There are several forms to fill out, that your bishop must start, and the Stake Pres will endorse and mail to SLC. Also, the bishop will need a letter from your ex asking his/hers feelings about the sealing cancelation. This may take some time getting this all together. (don’t fret of your ex writing negative things about you, I’ve never seen it affect the cancelation).
The actual time for the FP to approve can be just a few weeks. It use to take a long time, and people would get tired of waiting and just get married civilly. Things are much faster now if all the paper work is done properly. As bishop I once called the FP office about a cancelation, and where it was in the process, and the nice lady said she would see if she could hurry it along. I called back a few days later and she said it was approved and in the mail!

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Re: Sealing Cancelations

Postby nunzi47 » Mon Mar 26, 2018 4:21 pm

My ex has been after me to get a cancellation. Finally I gave my report to my bishop and my ex did the same. My ex divorced me almost 13 years ago to marry someone else. His new wife is not a member. I have asked my bishop several times about hearing back and all he says is that it takes a long time. I know it has been close to a year. Does it take years??

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Re: Sealing Cancelations

Postby lajackson » Mon Mar 26, 2018 7:29 pm

nunzi47 wrote:My ex has been after me to get a cancellation.

The decision for you to request a cancellation of your sealing is yours alone, and does not belong to your former spouse. There are certain blessings related to your sealing that continue for you even if the marriage does not last.

If you do request a cancellation, your former spouse is asked to supply a letter regarding his feelings, and it appears that this has taken place. What is unusual is that a request to cancel a sealing normally is not submitted until you are ready to be sealed to another worthy member in the temple.

Your bishop or stake president are in the best position to explain these things to you, and there are exceptions to what I have said. As for the timing of the process, there was a time when it took over two years to receive First Presidency approval. Today it sometimes happens within several months, unless there is an unusual aspect to the request, in which case a longer time is not unusual.

Your interviews with your bishop and stake president should have included discussions about these matters.

This is all beyond the scope of this forum. Only your priesthood leaders will be able to help you with these questions.

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Re: Sealing Cancelations

Postby johnshaw » Tue Mar 27, 2018 9:04 am

We can actually help you with the main question. NO, it should not take this long. Once all the paperwork is filled out and all parties have been contacted and allowed input, it is submitted to the 1st Presidency who consider it at their next meeting which will NOT be more than 2 weeks, unless it's in July when they are on Vacation.

The bishop should be able to walk you through the FORM, where they are in the process and what is the next step they are waiting on (it sounds like the Bishop has submitted it to the stake at this point). 1 Year is not acceptable and it means something has gotten dropped along the way. But whatever the cause, find out where it's stuck and get a meeting setup with either the Bishop or the SP to address it specifically. You might be served well by talking to someone in your ward that may have been through the same thing if you need someone to back you up when talking to those individuals.
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Re: Sealing Cancelations

Postby russellhltn » Tue Mar 27, 2018 11:01 am

lajackson wrote:What is unusual is that a request to cancel a sealing normally is not submitted until you are ready to be sealed to another worthy member in the temple.

^ This.

Typicaly that's only done when the woman finds another worthy member - not the man.

This may be why it's taking so long.
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